I really do not understand some people sometimes.
usually i think i’m the weird one. but certain things that other’s do..i’m just like….is that what’s normal?
cause that can’t be right.
The Ideas of Gender and Relationships
I don’t get how any girl can sit there and say shit like this:
“Men are all the same”
“their brain is in their dick”
“why is every boy a jerk”
Here’s the thing. Out of the 7 billion people that exist here on the planet earth, and the several thousand narrowed down people that could fit your personality that exist now, you seem to find “the jerk” or “asshole” out of our gender. And what’s hilarious is that your average American girl/woman seems to always find several in their lifetime. How can this be? Do you not learn from your mistakes? No. You don’t. From a guy’s standpoint, I seem to find that most women are doing one of these things:
1.) Just being completely stupid and going for the WRONG type.
2.) Lying for the sake of being upset that they got dumped.
3.) Really have no particular standards, other than the fact that they want someone who’s full-on eye-candy, and will not admit it.
4.) Just getting a “one night stand” expecting something more out of it.
5.) Setting expectations too high looking for their “Fairy-book Romance”
I, myself, have had to listen to this shit over and over, and be rejected just to lose out to one of these “assholes.” I’m an average height, kinda chubby, kinda nerdy, bearded guy who actually has unique interests and can be very sociable in a lot of situations. In fact, I’m actually quite confident in my personality and appearance because I’m well-groomed, kind, creative and a good listener. However, this isn’t about me. I know a lot of guys like me who come in all shapes and sizes, who society would consider average Joe’s. We’re really not so “average” when you bother to look at us on a personal level. The same can be said for some girls who sometimes run into these same situations.
Don’t Judge a Book by his Dic—I mean “Cover”
For some reason, most humans of the female gender (most between the ages of 30 and 16 and possibly younger even though they can’t even BEGIN to understand the concept of an actual fulfilling relationship at that age) are stating that they keep running into these kinds of males. Granted, our gender and how mainstream society has shaped us has made most of us very shallow individuals. Ladies, we can say the same shit about you. However, us men are constantly being put down and being judged solely by the actions of certain individuals in our gender. It’s almost as bad as racial profiling. In fact, a lot of you try to say that you want no one else in your life after each break up. You’re always repeating yourselves.
To be honest? Most of you aren’t trying hard enough to find someone who is really your match, or passing up the opportunity to be with someone who actually treats you better. Why is it females tend to fall for the ones who treat them like dirt? Or the ones who seem disinterested? Is it just that they’re falling for the typical male machismo? Or maybe we’re reverting back to primal desire for those who can provide, whether sexually or otherwise? To be honest, we probably shouldn’t even COMPLETELY be blaming aesthetics and looks. We somewhat can, but today’s women sometimes cut their standards to a lesser degree. Yet, on a side note, this idea can flip-flop between the genders.
Social Networking
Social networking has completely destroyed verbal and emotional communication. Case in point, break ups through texting. When we can’t communicate with emotions, relationships can be strained and difficult to maintain. Sometimes we really have to know what a person’s feeling, whether it’s a decision between you two, or an argument. Not only has it hurt communication between existing partners, but it hurts people who could potentially FIND partners.
Simple meet and greets are hard to find these days without it being within the inner city areas. We see it on movies, but not enough in real life. When we meet someone (or just browse online) we check their Facebook page. We see something we do and/or don’t like, and immediately we’ve filtered them out. We judge them based on a few online findings, but not their actual personal appearance and personality. It may seem more convenient, but it’s incredibly detrimental.
Losing Touch with Personality
Relationships today are barely based on personality. Most are based on social status, aesthetics, basic instincts, sexuality, and some common interests. Personality is actually a broad and ambiguous term. Speaking voice, non-verbal communication, emotional tone, what someone likes to talk about, and ways of thinking are all components of our personality. No true relationship can exist without intermingling personalities. Not all work. Sometimes this just happens. Events in our lives can affect them. Yet, when we find woman after woman and man after man complain that the opposite is “all the same,” then it’s very obvious you followed the drive-by menu for love. There’s more diversity than you believe, and if you’d stop looking at shit like “oh he/she has a little bit of weight” or “oh he/she’s too quiet” or “oh he/she likes a lot of stuff i don’t think i like,” then you may find yourself meeting someone who’s just right for you.
In short…
We need to stop gender discriminating. We need to stop jumping from mistake after mistake and blaming anyone but ourselves. We need to get the fuck OFF of Facebook and Tumblr for a while, and meet someone at a coffee shop and say hello WITHOUT them saying “Facebook me” or just saying nothing because they think you’re weird…just for saying “hello.” Give that boy or girl you friend-zoned a chance, because the truth of it is they might make you the happiest person in the world.
